Lilith in the Signs
From the book “Lilith—the challenge of sinking in the abyss of self”, written by the Romanian author and astrologer, “Minerva” (the mother/father/childbirth are just some points of reference of what I have understood, so not every sign will have this)
Part 1–>Aries-Virgo
Lilith in Aries
06.08.1931-02.05.1932
11.06.1940-07.03.1941
16.04.1949-11.01.1950
19.02.1958-16.11.1958
26.12.1966-21.09.1967
31.10.1975-26.07.1976
05.09.1984-31.05.1985
11.07.1993-06.04.1994
17.05.2002-09.02.2003
23.03.2011-16.12.2011
The shadow and primal fear: won’t have success, doesn’t deserves anything.
The projection of the shadow: others are successful; their dignity is based on what they achieved or realized with the help of their parents.
The problem: their own success, their identity; questions about self, self esteem and deserving.
Thinking projection: how good and how powerful they risk to judge correctly.
Relational: we can’t discuss about a considerable discomfort, but about the desires they materialize, even tho sometimes the wish is something shocking.
Objective: to not compare themselves with others; others success can’t be compared to their success, they are unique.
Characteristics: daring, limitless impertinence, but also the desire of rising in the eyes of the person they’re attracted to.
The message of Lilith:
,,You don’t fight for a cause, you have to embrace what you are and what you have.”
The Archetype behind Lilith: The Horsewoman
Manifesting: The native is, usually, charming and bright, has an eccentric character, without tough engagements related to rules and standards. Expect compulsive reactions if you want to charm them, fact that they consider normal and common, and at childish reactions when his wishes aren’t followed. They usually confront with dissatisfaction, about the self, about life, so he addresses any possibility of afirmation, fights for the disappearance of the feeling of being left behind, and, usually, wins important positions in the social group. Tends to react aggressively or obsessively when he needs to adopt a paternal character. Intensified everything he does or touches. As a future projection, the spontaneity and immediate initiative are essential expressions. When dealing with a problem of crisis and fear they become excessive and their reactions are extreme. He collapses shot down and helpless. It’s the best to not leave anger control him; Once he’ll realize the consequences of the actions, to not put in the shade the vision of life. The best is to focus the impatience and aggressiveness in a constructive way, so he will reconcile himself and work with a much better efficiency.
Relationship: everybody with this position need to resort punishments when they are hurt; they don’t forgive emotional humiliation, so for women with this placement, the emotional experience can become drama, if not actual tragedy, because they usually become merciless and impossible to be charmed, very strict about other women, especially if they are beautiful, blaming the whole feminine sex for their sentimental failure; men enter emotionless relationships, but, usually, fragile and vulnerable, too young, will be inexperienced partners, which will fade their masculinity and power for sure! For them, this position induces explosive jealousy, tendency for fatal bounds, wrong, which with the time, it gives them a shield which protects them of random bonds.
Childbirth/Pregnancy: Can be a real danger for the women with this position; the caesareans can go along with massive hemorrhagies.
As Mother: Is very strict, explosive, aggressive, with hard to contain anger, violent, uses physical punishments for disciplining their children.
As Father: they are violent in the family, applying “corrections” to the wife, and children, they sometimes choke their children or wife.
Sexuality: Lilith in Aries is talking about licentious sex; it has no modesty, loves to exploit their body. Exotic dance, pornography and other excessive considerated actions that will uncover their emptiness match with them. What they show is tempting. If she suffers for something, she suffers about herself, because she needs to be appreciated. They are the types that will want to drink their partner’s blood while in the act. Just like a storm, destroy the wars and anger around them. They love to choke their partner. They can choke someone and not be Horny, just so they can show power. Lilith in Aries is easy to understand when talking about sex: uses aggressiveness and power to feel strong.
Healing and transcending:
- Think and analyze why what you intended to do wasn’t realized.
- Think what fame and success means in your life.
- Ask yourself why you always want to win. When you realize the answer, ask yourself if that’s what you really want, if it deserves the effort.
Lilith in Taurus
03.05.1932-26.01.1933
08.03.1941-01.12.1941
12.01.1950-07.10.1950
17.11.1958-13.08.1959
22.09.1967-17.06.1968
27.07.1976-23.04.1977
01.06.1985-26.02.1986
07.04.1994-01.01.1995
10.02.2003-07.11.2003
16.12.2011-11.09.2012
The shadow and primal fear: insecurity
The projection of the shadow: that can’t be independent.
The problem: never has enough to feel safe; compulsive consuming; insecurity.
Thinking projection: the tendency to criticize others that they’re lazy, irresponsible, especially with their own money, or unconventionals.
Relational: searches people with a markedly individuality, that dare to be themselves; have the ability to enjoy life in all its themes
Objective: to get out of the comfort zone
Characteristics: most of the times, they have an early emotional growing up; they’re people that excell, indifferent the domain—or at least makes an effort to excell.
The message of Lilith: ,,Observe and understand the reality of the things and people, behind the facade, the social mask and stock of adopted system.”
The Archetype behind Lilith: Venus
Manifesting: With Lilith in Taurus, we feel comfortable. On the other hand, the level of self-esteem the native is feeling depends on how comfortable he is.
Lilith in Taurus is manifesté through an almost insatiable desire of consuming and accumulating posesions, money or anything that makes him feel safe and in a shelter. No matter how much he acquires, will never be enough to fill the inner emptiness that they feel—and they won’t do anything on this way. Even if the emptiness will be filled on that specific moment, the feeling of insecurity will come back again later. Most of the times, the final result of this constant attempt to satisfy the fear that they don’t have enough will reflect in their cotidian life through liabilities and extra pounds, through hesitating their responsibilities —thing that the native usually try to avoid. In this position, Lilith needs to feel secure and safe. The unsafeness is acute, even if the native feels at its best and brave while being in the presence of others.
Childbirth/Pregnancy: Women are very fertile and usually get unwanted pregnancies; if not, they might have troubles with having a child because of a previous abortion that ruined their fertility.
As Mother: They are caring, loving and materialistic mothers. They will love to talk a lot about their children and teach them the importance of money. They will be a bit selfish.
As Father: They are the fathers that don’t have a very emotional connection with their children. They think that the child is happy if he receives presents, toys, money, clothes and so on. They are the overprotective dads. It’s very posible that they will teach their children how to manage money.
Sexuality: Lilith in Taurus loves dirty sex, nudity, naturalness—maybe that’s why some of the natives are fighting with the water and soap. The native finds pleasure in sex in the most earthly form, wild, loves the smell of sex and money. The smell of sex is tempting, no matter if it’s the natural musk parfume or the sweetness of the makeup. The native is stubborn and can’t be controlled, instead, he has no modesty when spending money on himself, especially for payed sex. He knows how to hide his guilty pleasures, but if he is capable of such award, he is capable of a crime. Lilith here represents insensitivity, shamelessly; for the native, money don’t have a smell and that’s why we see him casually between the neighborhood tricksters or between the people that are spinning money with a shovel in generous businesses.
Healing and transcending:
- To be aware of the idea that they have all they need in themselves—that’s how they wound will heal. When they’ll know who they are, they won’t need any material needs anymore.
- To cut of the need to feel full inside. In the first phase they will feel a major discomfort, but it’s for their good.
- It’s important to learn how to say ,,No”—for feeling comfortable. Next time when they will feel the need to buy something or eat more, to go home and listen to good music, read or do a sport or a relaxing activity (yoga, dance, running or biking).
Lilith in Gemini
27.01.1933-21.10.1933
03.12.1941-26.08.1942
08.10.1950-02.07.1951
14.08.1959-07.05.1960
18.06.1968-13.03.1969
24.04.1977-17.01.1978
27.02.1986-22.11.1986
02.01.1995-29.09.1995
08.11.2003-03.08.2004
12.09.2012-09.06.2013
The shadow and primal fear: Self-acceptance
The projection of the shadow: fear of rejection
The problem: if others approve or not.
Thinking projection: through comparison with the other; labeled as egoistic; disgust for those who can’t do what needs to be done.
Relational: Can get to the deep of the soul of the other, which brings him a seductive privacy.
Objective: To not care about what others think about him, to not compare himself to others, to express his individuality.
Characteristics: He’s the one that is expressing himself through words, that talks about his perceptions or his vision of reality.
The message of Lilith: Say what you really think, not what you think will be intelligent, convincing or pleasant.
The Archetype: Dorian Grey.
Manifesting: The native has a hunger for knowledge and informations or can reject some informations; for example, doesn’t read the news. Proves elocvence and mental agility. To not tell some things, has the tendency to hesitate to enter certain situations, preferring to have silence. Starts courses that doesn’t intends to finish or starts to write books that will never be finished. The interior reality won’t be the same with the exterior reality. The native that has this placement, in the natal theme, is usually confronting with a real identity problem, which most of the times makes him question himself, to see himself behind the appearance; will always report himself to the other instead of seeing himself. His mental capacity is extremely powerful and varied, the reason for the confusion or psychical agitation, including a dividing of the personality. People with Lilith in Gemini have a morbid fear of rejection. They are pleasant people, that most of the time, let us ask questions and answer to them, even if they like or not the subject, the shadow is manifested as an interior need to take decisions, to act in a way that people around them will accept them unconditionally, convinced that they have something to win over them. It’s toxic for their soul to follow something that others want, not what they want.
Sexuality: this is a complicated aspect for the natives, because they are constantly thinking and don’t let their psychic to relax; as following, they usually(in youth especially) use alcohol, drugs, etc. They have in their minds countless possibilities, from which just a small amount will truly materialize. Even if in the past of the family there was no incest, sometimes their love for a sister or brother will be uncontrollable, and will try to find sexual partners that resemble their siblings. The women might love video chat or hot-lines to show their bodies. Those natives love to turn on their partner by words. They are great liars and aren’t afraid to lie to their partner so they can cheat on them. The native can be whoever he wants to be in the eyes of others.
Healing and transcending:
- If they’re capable to put themselves in the situation of being rejected, to realize that a simple rejection won’t stop the soul from developing spiritually, so they have again control over their Shadow. When the Shadow is healed, rejection is stopping to be a problem, because the acceptance was realized in the interior; the rich creativity is lightning unknown talents.
- When they make decisions and are planning resources, to ask themselves why they’re doing it. The answer has to always be “For me”.
Lilith in Cancer
22.10.1933-18.07.1934
27.08.1942-24.05.1943
03.07.1951-27.03.1952
08.05.1960-30.01.1961
13.03.1969-06.12.1969
16.01.1978-12.10.1978
23.11.1986-17.08.1987
04.08.2004-28.04.2005
09.06.2013-03.03.2014
The shadow and primal fear: The tendency to manipulate situations so others are dependent on them; abandonment fear.
The projection of the shadow: The tendency to despise the beggars; karmic debts with family members, rejecting their own childhood or family; rejection of vulnerability, femininity; sexual repression, sexual fantasies, temptations and possessiveness, fertility issues (sometimes abortions) because of an authoritarian mother; nutritional issues (absent or dead mother).
The problem: dependency, immaturity.
Thinking projection: how much he’s swallowed by others; how many accept them for who they really are.
Relational: the discomfort is created by the need to depend on something or someone; the incapacity to take action by themselves, especially when they think they don’t have all the advantages; wants to make others think they’re dependent on others.
Objective: to do things by themselves, so they aren’t dependent.
Characteristics: the impossibility to take care of themselves, much or less of others; here’s when we get the impression that they’re suffocating with too much love.
The message of Lilith: Let go of others and be yourself. Stop deciding other’s fates, think only about yours. Stop playing with the emotions of the people you love.
The Archetype: Peter Pan.
Manifesting: Lilith in Cancer gives the general feeling that the native is not capable to take care of themselves. In that case, the shadow manifests itself like a necessity to manipulate situations so that a person is dependent on them, so he is assured that he is not alone. This mangled feeling of induced care is destroying relationships and makes others feel suffocated or burdened. Many times, people with Lilith in Cancer feel like they aren’t appreciated for what they’re doing for others. The feeling that they’re not supported in what they’re doing stop their self development. The native is like a Protective mother. Family is very important to them. Those people could have nice memories from their childhood, grandparents, parents, schooldays. This position also brings a lot of frustrations, through family secrets related to children given to adoption, women who suffer, some who died while giving birth, are killed or raped. It is a notoriety the case of Sharon Tate, the wife of Roman Polanski, who was killed in the last month of pregnancy and had Lilith in Cancer. A lot of addictions, especially alcohol, characterize those natives. Drugs and medicine are an issue too.
As mother: first pregnancy usually ends up with an abortion or a miscarriage. Those mothers want to teach their children to be resistant, insistent, disciplined and autonoms, because they know those children will abandon them one day and will walk on their own paths. They tend to neglect their kids in their early childhood, being too busy with their own business. She may have issues related to the birth of the child that can get her to die. They tend to use their children as pawns to feed their egos.
Sexuality: Lilith in Cancer is a hard position because it suggests hidden emotions related to traumatic experiences from childhood, about emotional bursts, with hard to contain rage, that can do all the bad in the world, or with unhealthy orientations. Sexual abuses in childhood are very frecvent in people with this position. In sexual relationships there are always misunderstandings and uncertainties, because of their irrational fear of rejection. Both genders that have this placement might find attractive taking care of their partner. In a very paternal/maternal way. Here we see Daddies and Mommies searching for their babyboys/babygirls or Babygirls/Babyboys searching for their Mommies, Daddies.
Healing and transcending:
- The unitary concept has to be integrated, the idea of abandonment has to disappear, is nonexistent, and the relationships have to bring an equlibrated atmosphere.
- The native needs to do the things he wants himself others to do for him. Next time he needs something that depends on his powers, to pass through it and try to make it on his own. To start with small things.
- To do somethings for others, not only himself.
Lilith in Leo
19.07.1934-14.04.1935
24.05.1943-18.02.1944
28.03.1952-23.12.1952
31.01.1961-28.10.1961
07.12.1969-02.09.1970
12.10.1978-08.07.1979
18.08.1987-13.05.1988
23.06.1996-18.03.1997
29.04.2005-21.01.2006
04.03.2014-27.11.2014
The shadow and primal fear: fear of change.
The projection of the shadow: the disgust for the normal man, incapable to raise his position; ambition, sexuality, cold will, megalomania, arrogance, insistence.
The problem: power.
Thinking projection: the motivation to realize what he wants.
Relational: attention to the one night stands; has a very fragile heart and eyes.
Objective: to identify and manifest his gifts, to know how to recognize opportunities bragged out by change, to escape jealousy.
Characteristics: great difficulty in knowing their self.
The message of Lilith: Learn how to let others live their dreams.
The Archetype: Queen of Saaba.
Manifesting: the presence of Lilith in Leo is manifested through theatriatical behavior or the urge to dominate. Success is very representative for this native, that is always challenged with countless issues related to creativity. Those natives fear physical change, like getting old. They are scared of becoming unattractive or unwanted. They have a strong ego, that’s why there are people that love them and that hate them. They always feel like they need to display their own will to prove others they’re the best at everything, that’s why they find it hard to work in a team and try things that don’t give them any benefit. The native is always between people, but most of the times he feels unsatisfied. They have a very dramatic energy around them. They tend to give people a lot of energy. It’s like they exchange energy. Many natives are to see in Hollywood (Robert De Niro, Brigitte Bardot, Fred Astaire), politics (Charles de Gaulle), style (Naomi Campbell), music and sports. They don’t consider themselves normal people; their biggest wish is to have a whole era named after them. They tend to feel like the chosen ones. Many times, the tragic end of a love story drive them to get to know their demons better, not their angels. Marilyn Monroe preferred to commit a theatral suicide, that left her fans in tears.
Sexuality: The woman with Lilith in Leo will search for someone who will worship her and make any of her wishes come true. It’s normal to destroy their partners ego with the strictness and authority they have. They can find themselves living in a nightmarish marriage and try to “ease the pain” through their own children, but when their kids leave, the native feels alone and empty. Those women are able to love at 80 like they’re 14 because of their emotional immaturity. The man with this placement is normally found in authoritative environments which offers them this furious, wild sexuality, especially at maturity. Men are very virile, with a strong sexuality. A such powerful sexuality that they continue their sex life even at 70.
Healing and transcending:
- Give others things you would give yourself. You’re able to bring others to your level or even higher.
- When facing situations, considerate the way you can give others power. How can you make someone else feel important? Be altruistic.
- Try new things.
Lilith in Virgo
15.04.1935-09.01.1936
19.02.1944-13.11.1944
24.12.1952-18.09.1953
29.10.1961-25.07.1962
03.09.1970-31.05.1971
09.07.1979-04.04.1980
14.05.1988-07.02.1989
09.03.1997-14.12.1997
22.01.2006-19.10.2006
28.11.2014-24.08.2015
The shadow and primal fear: fear of failure and need of perfection
The projection of the shadow: the feeling that people aren’t as performant as they are, the fear of incompetence and doubt.
The problem: they’re living with the thought that they will never be understood; critical with themselves.
Relational: they should stop “educate” people and start listening to people’s point of view.
Objective: To stop focusing on their flaws or on fails; to not do things excessively; to stop feeling responsible of everything.
Characteristics: health issues (normally intestinal), death of coworkers, frustrations, curiosity, harsh obligations, emotionality and psychic instability.
The message of Lilith: The frustrations related to work are hard to take, but discipline is needed in everything.
The Archetype: Merlin
Manifesting: This position is related to work and to method to the native’s activity to every day’s dissatisfactions, all be it necessary related to the childish and invasive behavior at work. Generally, these natives are very health oriented in search for every type of therapy, they hear about even if they don’t need it. It’s just a matter of precaution. They love rigor and formal logics in their everyday life and are hedonists. So they only do what they love. If you want them to be conscious or not in what they’re doing, they need to be put in a situation of rejection. For example, when they’re losing their job or they get sick, because they already are put in a situation of marginality. Of course, they’re also very doubtful so they might even reject their own needs. These people tend to overwork themselves, they are hard workers but they also have issues related to their own responsibilities. They tend to overwork themselves because they are afraid of making mistakes most of the times. Lilith in Virgo gives the native a very bright mind and a very high intelligence which can drive the native to very high places in their career. When Lilith is afflicted the native has issues finding themself a job and normally gets in crisis because of money. They also tend to be hypersensitive. They may have math, physics, foreign languages, literature, psychology, medicine and acting interests.
Sexuality: Their emotional life is normally in danger because of their difficult childhood or the poorness related to emotions they needed to face in their early life. But somehow, in relationships, they will not have emotional issues, but sexuality related issues and they will always seem disinterested in sex, sexuality and their own physical satisfaction. These people most likely have been shamed in their youths for asking questions related to sex or they were repressed because of it. because of this you will most likely hear them saying “I’m tired” or “I need to work” in order to not have sex.
Healing and transcending:
- They need to understand that every person lives in a spiritual disconnection at some point.
- They need to analyze where they failed and what caused the fail. Was it only their fault? Could’ve they done more?
- Starting from the fails, do they think they gained and experience in life? In this case, time is the only one that can say it. They will be surprised when they find out that they fails were actually the experience they needed in life.